i’m a-lookin’ & i’m a-likin’!

Posted on April 19, 2011 by Derek Sisterhen
One of my favorite parts of my position as the Stewardship Ministry Director at Hope Community Church is teaching the money lesson during the pre-marriage class. There’s something about the serene look in the eyes of those considering marriage that says, “We have no idea what we’re getting ourselves into, and we aren’t wise enough to know it yet!”
It’s a blast. They’re like deer mesmerized by the headlights of a rapidly approaching car and they don’t even remember how they got out onto the road.
I spend about 45 minutes walking them through a few dos and don’ts of prepping financially for a healthy marriage relationship – what amounts to a quick overview of everything in Get Naked – and then I open the floor for some Q&A.
Invariably someone asks the question about whether finances should be kept separate or combined after I do.
It’s a good question. It plucks the can-I-trust-you?-are-you-everything-you-said-you-were?-you-aren’t-into-the-home-shopping-network-are-you? heart string.
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hoarders masquerading as savers

Posted on April 16, 2011 by Derek Sisterhen
If you’re a spender, you’ll appreciate this: Savers can be full of crap. They can come off as holier than thou in their effort to pinch every penny, cherish every dime, and make you feel guilty for putting a quarter in a gumball machine. Why is he/she so stingy? you might wonder.
And why can’t a guy/girl enjoy a simple gumball?
Well, it might be that your saver is really a hoarder in disguise.
How do I know this? Because I used to be one.
You’ll have to bear with me and a few things I’m about to say. They will come across humorous, but the truth is that I’ve had to deal with some challenging psychological tendencies in my youth (a few still to this day) that are common among the hoarders you’ve seen on TV. Only I didn’t really hoard stuff so much; I hoarded money. Continue reading →
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to know everything & do nothing about it

Posted on March 25, 2011 by Derek Sisterhen
Let’s play pretend. Let’s pretend that you and I want to be great chefs. We love to eat wonderful foods that taste great and wow our family and friends, so we want to absorb as much information and instruction as possible to leap from decent kitchen cook to great culinary artist.
We start by reading a bunch of books: Recipe books, books on technique, books by famous chef predecessors that we want to emulate. We read 25 books on how to make exquisite, succulent meals with passion and gusto.
But we don’t stop there, most certainly not. We even decide to spend hours watching Food Network, furiously scribbling notes on food combinations, presentation, and how to pair wines with main courses.
We take it a step further by enrolling in a local cooking program taught by well-known chefs. We’re getting hands-on instruction with an expert to guide us!
Now, imagine that we go home and nuke up a couple microwave dinners.
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i love a good coming-of-age story

Posted on March 11, 2011 by Derek Sisterhen
I’m a sucker for a good coming-of-age story. Something about the transformation-enlightenment-awareness process really excites me.
And, even though I usually feel completely unable to relate to them (something about skinny jeans and Uggs just doesn’t register among the synapses in my brain), I really get excited for teenagers. The doors of life are about to blow wide open before them.
Think about it: For many high school seniors, the next ten years will usher forth marriage, children, home ownership, career change, and, yes, even the paying of taxes.*
I taught personal finance fundamentals to a group of 30 high-schoolers last summer for my friends at SAS Institute.** After painting a picture of their potential futures one girl said, “I’m so stressed out right now!”
Don’t worry, I put her at ease. But then I got to thinking, What if she really should be stressed out? What if all these kids are living in a sheltered dreamland that is doing them a huge disservice in preparation for adulthood?
Here’s what I know from working with many different families over the last few years:

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remember cable tv?

Posted on March 4, 2011 by Derek Sisterhen
I can still remember when my family first got cable. All the sudden we had a little box on top of our TV that served as the gateway to a mysterious beyond no one really understood.
Instead of eight channels, we had thirty; and there were more popping up all the time!
If it wasn’t for cable TV, I wouldn’t know all the words to the “Green Acres” theme song (with Eva Gabor’s accent lilting forth about Park Avenue). Nor would I know that Don Adams – of iconic “Get Smart” fame – also loaned his voice to “Inspector Gadget.” My hat’s off to TV Land for giving me access to great shows of yesteryear.
Nowadays, in the world of DVRs and Tivos, we can enjoy a self-serve approach to television. Just hit record, set it and forget it.
Want to watch Billy the Exterminator over your Rice Krispies tomorrow morning? You can.
How about the latest iteration of a series all about the majesty of our planet? Go for it.
One of the best lifestyle changes I experienced after marrying Elisa was limiting the amount of time we spent watching TV. I used to watch a lot of TV. The average household in America has a television on for around six hours every day and I probably wasn’t too far off of that figure. (That average is of time the television is on; doesn’t mean anyone is watching it.)
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